What Does it Mean to be a Spiritual Person?

By Margaret Paul

Do you confuse spirituality with
religion? We can be both religious and spiritual, or religious
without being spiritual, or spiritual without being religious.

You go to church
every Sunday and you say your prayers every day. Does this mean you
are a spiritual person?


You practice
yoga and meditate every day. Does this mean you are a spiritual


You belong to
spiritual group and are devoted to following the teachings of the
group. Does this mean you are a spiritual person?


Then, Does It Mean To Be A Spiritual Person?

Being a
spiritual person is synonymous with being a person whose highest
priority is to be loving to yourself and to others. A spiritual
person cares about people, animals and the planet, and strives to be
a kind person. A spiritual person knows that we are all One, and
consciously attempts to honor this Oneness.

You can go to
church every Sunday and say your prayers every day, without caring
about being kind and loving to yourself, others and to the planet.
You can practice yoga and meditate every day without being conscious
of what is loving and what is not loving in your thoughts and
actions. You can belong to a spiritual group and devotedly follow the
teachings, yet still be judgmental toward yourself and others in your
daily life.

There are many
people who do not practice a religion, who do not meditate, pray or
belong to any group, who are very spiritual people. These people
naturally do caring things for others. They think about how they can
help. Their thoughts are kind rather than judgmental toward
themselves and toward others. When you look at them, you see kindness
in their eyes.

There are many
religious people who are anything but kind. We all know of religious
people who are extremely judgmental, righteous and downright mean.
Can you be both religious and spiritual? Of course! But only when you
are operating in your religion from your heart rather than from the
learned dogma of your mind.

Ago I Very Briefly Attended A “Spiritual” Group…

People would
meet in an auditorium to hear the leader of the group speak. The
second time I attended I heard a number of parents yelling at their
children and judging them to try to control them. These parents were
being anything but kind with their children. That was the last time I
attended the spiritual group. The focus of the group was surrender to
God, but love was rarely in the picture! They obviously had a very
different experience of God than I do.

My experience of
God is that God is the energy of Love that created us and sustains
us. In my experience, “God is Spirit” (John 4:24) and “God
is love” (1 John 4:16). Anything that is not of love, peace,
joy, truth and kindness is not of God. Praying to God does not mean
that you are actually allowing the spirit that is God – the love,
peace, joy, truth and kindness that is God – to guide your thoughts
and actions. Practicing yoga or meditating does not mean that you
have invited the love-that-is-God into your heart, or that you are
turning to that ever-present love to learn about what is in your
highest good, and the highest good of others and of the planet.

If you want to
be a spiritual person, then let kindness be your guiding light –
kindness toward yourself, toward others, toward animals and toward
this beautiful planet that is our home. Recognize that we all have
the spark of love- that-is-God within us, and learn to honor that
love so that you can know and experience the Oneness of all that is.

Practicing Inner
Bonding® and learning to be kind to yourself inevitably leads to
kindness to others. Inner Bonding is a powerful spiritual path.

DR. MARGARET PAUL is a bestselling author, relationship
expert, and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® self-healing
process, recommended by actress Lindsay Wagner and singer Alanis
Morissette. She has appeared on numerous
radio and television shows (including Oprah). Her book
titles include Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You,
Healing Your Aloneness, Inner Bonding” and the recently
released Diet For Divine Connection. Margaret has successfully
worked with thousands around the world and taught classes and
seminars for over 50 years. Go to http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome
for a free Inner Bonding® course and join Dr. Margaret for her “Love
Yourself” Course at

**The thoughts and opinions posted here are the author’s only, and do not necessarily reflect the beliefs of anyone at Crown City Network.